Alex’s dating profile 😘

Seeking lifelong romantic partnership with a woman who wants to build a playful, curious, connected & loving life together.

Make or break it

• Age: 34
• Gender: Male
• Location: Currently Millbrae (just south of San Francisco), preference for long term residence on US west coast
• Wants kids: Definitely!
• Looking for: women
• Height: 6’ 0”
• Substances: Despite curiosity, I don't want to destroy this machine of thinking I have that makes life so much fun. (aka I basically don't drink or use drugs)

What I’m like

Personality

I’m curious and I like to understand the why and how of how our world (including you! 😉) works. Ideally you and I could stay up late learning how things work and sharing the cool things we discover.

I’m playful and silly. I like goofing off and am not afraid to laugh at myself.

I trust easily.

I’m very open and agreeable, with average conscientiousness and split intra/extraversion. I exhibit very little neuroticism.

I feel at home with technology and in nature.

I feel at home with people who align with “nerds”. At Caltech I made many lifelong friendships. "Ohhhh *these* are my people".

I feel a vivid aliveness in many things, but especially in music and food and the smells of flowers and beautiful people and the wonders of the universe. My sometimes roommates roll their eyes at my sounds of delight while eating.

One of my favorite memories with Alex: giggling endlessly while showing JPL astronomers that we could use cheez-its as surprisingly effective pinhole projectors during the 2018 solar eclipse in Eastern Oregon, after a weekend of exploring and great conversation. Adventure, curiosity, deep discussion, and silliness are always on the menu with Alex (not to mention his great cooking!)!

— my friend Annie

Beliefs

I believe in play.

I believe in seeking slack.

I believe in looking at things with enchanted eyes — choosing to see wonder, choosing to be delighted.

I believe in the seasons. There are seasons of growth, seasons of sadness, seasons of quiet, seasons of bountiful joy and harvest. Friendships have seasons. Careers have seasons. Selves have seasons.

I believe in sleeping in.

I believe in food that makes “mmmmmmmm” escape my lips.

I believe in the importance of friendship.

I believe in laughter and in serious thought.

I believe in interpreting words and actions charitably.

I believe there are many lives worth living.

I believe in focusing on what you want to see more of in the world. Joke about the outcomes you want to see in the world.

I believe the meaning of life is to love and to be loved.

Lifestyle

Hobbies: Most of my hobby time is spent cooking, gaming, outdoors, or building something. Anything active, intellectual, or creative is generally up my alley. Here are some examples of some physical adventures:

I’m into scuba diving, tennis, skiing, running, mountain biking, and am open to trying most things. I'm not a pure adrenaline seeker and I enjoy the quiet days too, but I’d love to play around the world with you 🙂

Sometimes I get adventurous in the kitchen:

I’m also into board games, video games, and word games.

I love to read and occasionally dabble in writing poetry.

I want to learn about your hobbies and what you care about! I’m interested by just about everything under the sun, so it’s just a matter of if someone has shown me how cool it is yet.

I don’t really drink, so if alcohol is a significant part of your lifestyle we’re unlikely to be an excellent match.

Money

I have a healthy relationship with money. I’m financially stable with no debts and an engineering job. I like to be generous to myself and others, but in general am relatively frugal.

Family

I grew up in a stable and loving Christian household (though I'm agnostic) and get along great with my parents and brother. My brother and I are quite close, despite us living many states apart.

My strengths

• I’m accepting and trusting.
• I'm attentive and present.
• I'm scholastically smart. I can learn information, play the necessary games, and accomplish goals.
• I'm actively and regularly trying to improve. Small stuff I'll change quickly. The core of me changes slowly, deliberately, and regularly. The slowness is a feature; I am stable and secure and dependable.
• I work hard, but not to the exclusion of life.
• I take things seriously yet hold them lightly.
• I care about the world and the people in it.
• I’m easy going, carrying very little stress.
• I’m very slow to anger.
• I’m handy and helpful — I'll fix stuff around our home.
• I’m generous, gracious, and affectionate.

My weaknesses

• I don’t like conflict, so I’ll sometimes downplay issues in an attempt to minimize being upset. Luckily I'm aware of this and it is something I actively work on!
• In weakness I can fall for procrastination.

What I’m looking for in my partner

A woman who wants to grow to be better together. I want someone who helps teach with love and grace and wants the same for themselves. Romantic partnerships take effort and commitment and continually showing up.

Someone who cares about others. People who go out of their way to help those around them are very attractive.

Intellectual curiosity and intelligence. I’m a curious person who asks weird questions sometimes. I want a partner who can hold hypotheticals, ask what-ifs, and dream together. If you enjoy talking about philosophy, how things work, and ideas in general, we will get along. I’m looking for a joyful mind at work; someone curious who likes thinking about the serious and the silly.

Silliness. Life is too short to not be full of laughter. I generally find most parts of life are worth taking seriously, and therefore worth beign able to laugh at. Being able to laugh easily together is important to survive 20,000 Wednesdays together.

Physical affection. Touch means a lot to me. I’m a sexual creature and feel a deep sense of love and connection through physical contact, in all forms.

Someone physically active who likes to spend time outside. I’m someone who is endlessly fascinated by virtual worlds and strategy video games, books, Wikipedia, etc., and can easily spend time in front of the computer. As such, I’ve discovered that it’s best if my partner has a natural drive towards the sunlight, towards movement, and being fit. I really like all of those things myself, and it works best if I’m not the only one in the partnership initiating outdoors adventures. Bonus points if we can delight in games together too.

Clear verbal communication. I tend to have better relationships with people who aren’t shy about sharing their thoughts, feelings, dreams, hopes, desires, problems, and worries. Ideally we both share a commitment to improving our communication paterns and tools as our relationship grows.

Wants to eventually be a mother/parent. I’m looking to raise a family with my partner and want them to be excited about being a mother and raising kids together one day. I’m very much looking forward to being a father.

What I want my family to look like

I’m looking for a future wife/partner for life.

I want kids; 2 sounds nice but the future is unknown! I want to raise them to be loving, curious, and full of joy and confidence in a place full of community where the kids (and adults) are welcome to run around and play outside and get dirty.

I like to promote hospitality. Can we host people over for dinner and have guests stay with us?

Contact

Does any of the above interest you? Reach out so we can set something up.

I’m open to meeting online and in person. I often suggest walks or coffee/tea for first dates, then hopefully we do something weird, novel, or silly for a second!

• Twitter DM: @awlego
• Email: awlego@gmail.com
• Signal/Texting/etc: DM for number

Feel free to message me about anything on my profile. It takes courage to reach out to an internet person with an invitation to meet or talk more, so just by messaging me I’ll be impressed. I’m quick to open up, so if you ask a deep or personal question in good faith I’ll very likely reply in kind.

Thanks for reading!